5 Deadly Terms Used by a Woman! Are You Offended Too?

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This was originally a post on Facebook – one of those that people ‘like’ and ‘share’ and it certainly made me smile – but it also left me feeling disappointed and a bit offended. Jokes reveal hidden truths about how we really see ourselves and others – and this one is no different (just start by asking yourself whether it was written by a man or a woman).

So, what do you think? Although funny it reinforces the message that women are passive-aggressive and unable to communicate directly what they really think and feel. Women are made out to be controlling, sarcastic and vindictive.

But I think this post is damaging to men AS WELL AS women.

Messages like this don’t help men or women understand each other any better, they just reinforce negative stereotypes – rather than helping us change ourselves for the better. Here is a quick summary of what I noticed:

The stereotypes or hidden messages ABOUT WOMEN:

  1. Women are dangerous! (see the use of “Deadly” in the title).
  2. Women lie and you can’t trust them (they don’t say what they really mean).
  3. Women think they are superior or that they know best.
  4. Women are sarcastic, mean and vindictive and will find a way to get back at you.
  5. Women know how to hurt and get at men.
  6. Women are really the ones in control.
  7. Women are angry, judgemental and unreasonable

The stereotypes or hidden messages ABOUT MEN:

  1. Men think they know best, but really they don’t (a woman does).
  2. Men are arrogant and don’t listen.
  3. Men are stupid and don’t understand women.
  4. Men are vulnerable to, and under ‘attack’ from women.
  5. Men are not as clever as women
  6. If men are not clever and in control, women will abuse them.
  7. (Implied) Unlike women, men are direct and will say what they mean.

THINKING BIGGER: Things can’t change until people are AWARE that something needs to change. So, in future, if you see or read something – and feel upset, offended or disappointed, take a moment to read between the lines. Notice what it is that upsets you and why. Then, if you like, you could leave a polite comment explaining why it offends or upsets you – or simply discuss it with a friend. Or like me, write a blog post about it! Who knows where that may lead?

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