Get Rid Of Your Inner Critic with these 3 Simple Techniques!

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Whether you call it an “Inner Critic”, a “Gremlin” or your “Judge” we ALL have one. A part of us that ignores our achievements, and focuses on our flaws and mistakes – and then not only highlights them, but often yells and abuses us too. “Well, that was a stupid thing to do!” or “No-one’s going to promote you now” or “You’re a reject – WHAT an idiot!” and worse…

Yes, there’s a positive intention hidden underneath those snarky, downright mean comments that our Inner Critic makes. But what I found is that the ‘positive intention’ was always to MAKE ME BETTER and PROTECT ME from criticism and rejection by others.

Now, this may SEEM  like a good a thing. But it suggests there’s something wrong with us now. It says that the only way we’ll learn is if we’re punished and ridiculed. It suggests that what others think is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING in our lives.

But you’re a grown-up now and you’re an intelligent person. You know that when people are punished and ridiculed they feel BAD. Who does their best work, who could possibly be happy and enjoy their lives while someone gives them verbal abuse? We wouldn’t tolerate it from our friends, why do we tolerate it from ourselves?

So, the technique to get rid of your Inner Critic for good is simple: STOP IDENTIFYING WITH IT! What does this mean? Your Inner Critic may be a part of you but it doesn’t have to be! What makes us FEEL terrible is that we 1) listen and 2) agree with what our Inner Critic says – instead of standing up for ourselves! Our inner critic may be part of US – but if we created it and we can also remove it…

OK, so how do we STOP IDENTIFYING with our Inner Critic? Well, next time your notice your critic at work, simply remember that your critic is not YOU. Then, use one of these 3 simple techniques to distance your SELF from your inner critic’s voices:

  1. Chuck your inner critic down a bottomless well. Literally pick it up and throw it into the well, and listen as the voice recedes into the blackness. Did I mention it was bottomless? You don’t need to HARM your critic, just separate THEM from YOU. And what better way than down a bottomless well, or a black hole if you prefer. The critic returns? Chuck it down the well again. You can do it. Deep breath and IMAGINE.
  2. Put your inner critic in a SOUNDPROOF room. A padded cell if you like. You can give them food and water – they don’t need to suffer. You JUST CAN’T HEAR them any more! If it escapes, as soon as you notice, put them back in there again. Repeat as often as necessary!
  3. A final option. This is a little harder as it involves you being really ACTIVE with your own inner voice, but for those of you who like a challenge, imagine your inner critic as a schoolyard taunt – only now you’re an adult. Stick your metaphorical fingers in your metaphorical ears and say, “I can’t hear you!” You can even add “Na na na, I still can’t hear you!”.  Imagine you’re singing this OVER THE TOP of your critic. Try skipping and smiling. And even better, actually skip! When your critic says “Stop being so childish” reply with “Well, stop being so mean then!”

The Trick: with all of these, (or any other scenario you can imagine that works for you), is to separate YOU from your inner critic and to RE-TAKE CHARGE of your SELF.

The Hard Part: When you take charge of yourSELF you’ll need to find out who you really are. You’ll need to value yourself and YOUR opinion. You’ll need to learn what’s important to you – and to stand up for that no matter what your inner critic or anyone else says. And this takes time and practice – but that’s why you’re reading this – because you’re already on that journey. So, pat yourself on the back, give yourself a hug and smile at the new YOU in the making!

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3 Responses to Get Rid Of Your Inner Critic with these 3 Simple Techniques!

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  2. Donna says:

    I loved this article and found #2 option actually worked for me. I couldn’t believe it!! The inner critic is starting to be silenced. 🙂 In the sound proof room, I can still see her talking but just can’t hear her. It’s amazing.

    • Emma-Louise says:

      Dear Donna,

      That is awesome! I LOVE that that soundproofing technique works for you 🙂 (makes me think of being 7 and sticking my fingers in my ears – la la la I can’t hear you…)

      Warmly, Emma-Louise x

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